Bitterness: Healing The Wounded Heart
| Sunday, September 26, 2010 | ||
| 12:00 am | ||
| 10:00 am | to | 11:15 am |
“This is my Bible. It is the truth. It is living and active. It judges my thoughts and actions. Following it I will never walk in
darkness.
I am who it says I am. I have what it says I have.
Today I will be taught the word of God. I boldly confess that my mind is alert and my heart is open to hear God’s Word.
In Jesus name, Amen.”
Hebrews 12:14–15 (NAS)
“Pursue peace with all men, and the sanctification without which no one will see the Lord. See to it that no one comes short of the grace of God; that no root of bitterness springing up causes trouble, and by it many be defiled”
Introduction:
1, Broadsided – the story of a car accident!
This last section is about living life in a hostile world where everything does not go as we had hoped for or planned
2, Review
Setting
Running with endurance the race marked out for you – The race is our lives! We are in a race and It is a struggle!
The race marked out for us
You are called to run your race – not someone else’!
First, remove things that hinder
Second, remove sin that so easily distracts / entangles!
Third, stay focus on Christ
Hebrews 12:2 “looking to Jesus, the founder and perfecter of our faith, who for the joy that was set before him endured the cross, despising the shame, and is seated at the right hand of the throne of God.”
Fix Your Eyes on Jesus
Hebrews 2:9 “But we see Jesus, who was made a little lower than the angels, now crowned with glory and honor because he suffered death, so that by the grace of God he might taste death for everyone.
Hebrews 3:1 “Therefore, holy brothers, who share in the heavenly calling, fix your thoughts on Jesus, the apostle and high priest whom we confess.”
II. Be responsive to your trainer!
How God Trains Us – Through Discipline, Hebrews 12:4-11
God’s discipline comes to train us!
He allows difficulty and hardship to come. He uses it for good.
Who can on his/her own deal with hindrances and sins?
God must help us! He is the loving Father that sends the reproofs of life!
~ Do not take lightly! Don’t ignor what he says!
~ Do not lose heart! – You are His son / daughter!
Endure hardship as a discipline!
Submit to the Father of your spirit!
Physical father – father of your flesh
Spiritual father – father of your spirit
“When all kinds of trials and temptations come into your life, do not reject them as enemies but welcome them as friends realizing that they come to produce in you the qualities of godliness!” James 1:5-9
III. Deal With Your Issues!, Hebrews 12:12-17
A. General: Deal with your issues:
~ Strengthen (lift up – plural) feeble arms and weak knees
Deal first with yourselves!
Get your own heart right toward your troubles!
~ Watch your influence on others!
the self-made potholes and mountains for your feet
So that you can bring healing to the lame (disjointed) in your life!
The Greek word ektrepo, translated “be put out of joint” (v. 13), has the technical medical sense of a foot turning so as to become dislocated. This power comes as we draw upon our resources for strength, namely, the Word of God and the ministry of our great High Priest (4:12-16).
Watch your influence on others!
Take care that you are not a stumbling block to those who travel with you. Their faith is fragile!
B. Specific Issues!
1. Pursue peace with everyone!
Matthew 5:9 “Blessed are the peacemakers, for they shall be called sons of God.” (NASV)
Romans 12:18 “If possible, so far as it depends on you, live peaceably with all.”
2. Pursue holiness
Hebrews 10:14
“For by a single offering he has perfected for all time those who are being sanctified.” (ESV)
2 Corinthians 5:21 “For our sake he (God the Father) made him (Jesus Christ) to be sin who knew no sin, so that in Christ we might become the righteousness of God.” (ESV)
It is a mistake to view holiness as righteous behavior we accomplish in our own lives. The kind of righteousness that will allow us to see God is a gift from God through faith in Jesus Christ. We are to continually see ourselves as already righteous in His eyes through the gracious act of God on the basis of the death and resurrection of Christ.
Through our righteous standing before God we have peace with God.
This is a strong motivation for us to live righteously before God.
And, when we don’t we experience an inward distress that is designed by God to bring us again and again back to the throne of grace to receive His mercy and find His grace to help in time of need!
And as we do we are being progressively transformed into Christ’s likeness with ever increasing glory! (2 Corinthians 3:18).
3. Deal with any Root of Bitterness
Hebrews 12:15 “See to it that no one fails to obtain the grace of God; that no “root of bitterness” springs up and causes trouble, and by it many become defiled” (ESV)
Hebrews 3:12 “Take care, brothers, lest there be in any of you an evil, unbelieving heart, leading you to fall away from the living God.” (ESV)
Hurt…anger (almost always a secondary emotion)…
resentment…bitterness
Bitterness & Resentment
When you are offended or disappointed by others and allow the hurt to germinate in your heart, bitterness and resentment will take root. Characterized by an unforgiving spirit and generally negative, critical attitudes, bitterness and resentment are sinful and self-defeating. They will color your conscious and unconscious thoughts and actions. Allowed to fester, they will destroy and kill (Galatians 5:19-21). However, they can be dispelled with love.
Job 3:20 “Why is light given to him who is in misery, and life to the bitter in soul,”
Proverbs 14:10 “The heart knows its own bitterness, and no stranger shares its joy.” (ESV)
Lamentations 3:15-26
“He has filled me with bitterness; he has sated me with wormwood… But this I call to mind, and therefore I have hope: The steadfast love of the LORD never ceases; his mercies never come to an end; they are new every morning; great is your faithfulness.”
Like depression and other forms of emotional stress, bitterness and resentment causes trouble to ourselves and others.
Your relationships will always suffer.
Trouble: “In a fixed state of ” plus “trouble”
A primary preposition denoting (fixed) position in place, time or state
1 to excite
2 to disturb, the push others away.
3 to trouble, ashalt and molest.
4 to always be in confusion, in an uproar.
5 to be vexed, molested, troubled
But for the called out ones, God injects his awesome grace!
We allow ourselves to get hung up on the past or hang onto the past.
We can only solve our problems in the future!
If we allow ourselves to focus on them all of us have a parade of the horribles in life.
Some of us have become profession “big dumps”.
We know God is good. We know of His promises but we are filled with “yes buts” and “poor me”.
How do you want your future to look?
How do you want your children’s future to look? At their graduation? At their wedding?
~ The healing power of God’s awesome presence!
What Scripture Says “Follow peace with all men, and holiness, without which no man shall see the Lord” Hebrews 12:14
“Let all bitterness, and wrath, and anger, and clamour, and evil speaking, be put away from you, with all malice. And be ye kind one to another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, even as God for Christ’s sake hath forgiven you”(Ephesians 4:31,32).
“Who, when He was reviled, reviled not again; when He suffered, He threatened not; but committed Himself to Him that judges righteously” (1 Peter 2:23).
“Then said Jesus, Father, forgive them; for they know not what they do…. ” (Luke 23:34).
“For if you forgive men their trespasses, your Heavenly Father will also forgive you. But if you do not forgive others their trespasses, neither will your Father forgive your trespasses” (Matt 6:14,15).
“Bless them which persecute you: bless, and curse not. Rejoice with them that do rejoice, and weep with them that weep. Be of the same mind one toward another. Mind not high things, but condescend to men of low estate. Be not wise in your own conceits. Recompense to no man evil for evil. Provide things honest in the sight of all men. If it be possible, as much as lieth in you, live peaceably with all men. Dearly beloved, avenge not yourselves, but rather give place unto wrath: for it is written, Vengeance is mine; I will repay, saith the Lord. Therefore if thine enemy hunger, feed him; if he thirst, give him drink: for in so doing thou shalt heap coals of fire on his head. Be not overcome of evil, but overcome evil with good” (Romans 12:14-21).
C. The Mountain of Doom and Gloom vs the Mountain God, v18 Pray in this manner: Father, I acknowledge that I’ve held resentment and bitterness against ______________. I confess this as sin and ask you to forgive me. I forgive _____________. Remind me, Lord, to not hold any more resentments, but rather to love this person. Father, I ask you to also forgive __________________. Thank you for hearing and answering my prayer. In Jesus’ name,
Suggested Reading Bitterness Acts 8:23; Romans 3:14; Ephesians 4:31; Hebrews 12:15; James 3:14.
Hatred Leviticus 19:17; Proverbs 10:12; Proverbs 15:17; 1 John 2:9; 1 John 4:20.
Envy Psalms 37:1; Proverbs 3:31; Proverbs 23:17; Galatians 5:26; Genesis 26:14; Matthew 27:18.
Malice 1 Corinthians 5:8; 14:20; Colossians 3:8; 1 Peter 2:1; Esther 3:6; Psalms 140:3; Isaiah 59:4,5; Matthew 27:23; John 12:10; Acts 7:54.